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What is PASMany children in UK suffer from Parental Alienation Syndrome but less people know what PAS is. This syndrome is present in children with divorced parents who are alienated from one of the parents. The concept of Parental Alienation was discovered by Richard A. Gardner in 1985. When a child suffers from this syndrome he strongly rejects the non custodial parent. According to the psychiatrist this alienation is triggered by brainwashing and strictness of the custodial parent. Barbara hated her father badly. She was 5 years old when her parents got divorced. Although the court had granted visitation rights to the father, Barbara’s mother never encourared the father to meet the child. On top of that Barbara’s mother and granny always told negative things about her father. The poor child was brainwashed against the father, so much so that she had no meaning of a father in her life. This kind of hatred and alienation towards the other parent, which is inspired by the custodial parent, is known as PAS. The court believes that the child needs the love and company of both the parents for a proper development. This is the reason why visitation rights are granted to the non custodial parent and are legally binding. However, the kind of behavior exhibited by the child during PAS disrupts the relationship with the access parent and hampers the socio –familial development of the child. In most of the cases the estranged relationship of the parents forces the child to devlope this syndrome. The custodial parent manipulates the child for vengeance and hatred. PA (Parental Alienation) is also used commonly for gaining custodial rights during the divorce. One parent tries to brainwash the child against the other parent and rouses his hatered. Due to this syndrome the child strats abhorring the victimized parent and denies to be in his/her custody. If the parent feels that the child is exhibiting parental Alienation syndrome then he must take necessary steps to prevent further alienation. The characteristic behavior which shows that the child might be suffering from PAS are:
Here are some steps that you must take if you feel that your child is suffering from PAS: Do not give up: If your child is suffering from PAS he will avoid or misbehave with you again and again, but your effort should not stop. If it is PAS, which is an inspired behavior, it can go away gradually with patience and consistent effort. Forgive the child: During PAS the child is likely to hurt you as much as he can. His image of you as a good parent is shattered and he does not want to forgive you for this. However, as a parent your role is to forgive your child for rude or rash behavior. Console yourself by thinking that your child is suffering from a syndrome and only good behavior can restore your image in his eyes. Understand PAS: Analyze what is Parental Alienation Syndrome by talking to psychiatrists and reading psychological literature. PAS is not difficult to handle. With patience and consistent effort you can understand the nuances of this syndrome and successfully win back your child.
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